“Boys Don’t Cry” was (and still is) an alltime favorite song of mine by The Cure. “Man up” was a phrase my father loved to say to me as a shy, sensitive elementary schooler whenever I burst into tears over something he deemed meaningless. Both of these phrases are popular— but they all internalize the idea that expressing vulnerability is a sign of weakness, especially for men. This has led countless people to suppress emotions; ones like
fear, sadness, or anxiety. Specifically the “bad” and “weak” feelings, as some would call them.

Men are often seen as less emotional than women, but this is not a matter of biology—it’s largely shaped by societal norms. From a young age, boys are taught to prioritize strength and stoicism over emotional expression. As a result, many men grow up internalizing the belief that showing emotion makes them “less of a man.”

This fear of vulnerability can have serious consequences. Men are less likely to seek help for mental health issues, contributing to higher rates of depression, substance abuse, and even suicide (yes, they do have more success in suicide than women). It can also strain relationships, as emotional intimacy becomes harder to achieve.

Real strength comes from being honest about our emotions and seeking help when we need it, not from hiding our pain. So please, don’t hide your feelings.